How do you find balance?

I'll admit it.  I'm feeling overwhelmed.  I have three wonderful children that require and deserve more than I feel I can give them and I have my own business that only thrives when I give it my all.

I love both.  I truly do.  In two completely different ways.  But lately work has left me drained, with not a lot for my children.  It makes me sad.  This is not the person I want to be.  This is not the mom I want to be. 

And these feelings are riddled with guilt.  Guilt about what I wish I could give my children.  Guild about what I'm not doing for my business.  Guilt that I'm feeling guilty about both. 

Its a slippery slope my friends.  This guilt is full of other emotions - sadness, jealousy, anger, disapproval, self-doubt... 

And it is also full of what ifs "what if my husband got a better job" or "what if we moved" or "what if I started setting my alarm for 4 a.m. so I could work for 3 solid house before the kids got up..." 

Or what if I accepted that there is no perfect parent, that we're all doing the best we can and at the end of the day that isn't so bad.